EMBRACE YOUR VIBRANT HUES: Rise Beyond Peoples Limited Perspectives.
Following people through hell is not love. Sticking by their side while they drag you through years of embarrassment and pain that makes you question your worth is not love. Abandoning your dignity and self respect to keep the peace is not love.
Please unlearn these!
Love and suffering should never go hand in hand. It's heartbreaking to see people suffer in the name of love, whether it's romantic or platonic.
Love should always bring joy and upliftment, not pain. Love doesn't hurt or destroy people. It's the absence of love that does.
In English they say, "Their opinions don't define you." But in the poetic realm, we express it as: "Just because they are colourblind, that doesn't make you any less colourful."
Friend, go where you’re loved. Surround yourself with people who uplift and cherish you. Stay away from anyone who brings negativity and makes you feel less.
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#thelovedoctorken One of the things singles should do in their relationship is this: DEFINE IT.
Do you know why?
So, you don't waste your time or they don't waste yours.
And so you don't assume something is going to happen when nothing has been set in motion.
No play o!
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• When a man has a good car it attracts more ladies to him. When a lady has a good car it repels guys away from her. This is the world we live in.
• A teenage boy impregnates his teenage girlfriend. The girl drops out of school, the boy continues his education. This is the world we live in.
• A guy catches his girlfriend with another guy, he fights his girlfriend. A lady catches her guy with another lady, she fights the other lady. This is the world we live in.
• The older a man becomes, the higher the number of ladies available for him. The older a lady becomes the fewer the number of guys available for her. This is the world we live in.
• A 76 year old man can still marry a 26 year old lady. A 36 year old lady is tagged too old to get married. This is the world we live in.
• A man looses his wife to death and remarries a year after, he did the right thing, he's being praised and congratulated for moving on, after all life is for the living.
• A woman looses her husband to death and remarries after 4yrs, "aaah! so early? Are u sure she wasn't sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive? That was why she killed her husband. This is the world we live in.
• A married man is caught in bed with another woman, his wife is asked to forgive him and move on. A married woman is caught in bed with another man, the husband asks her to leave his house. This is the world we live in.
• If a man rises to be the CEO of the company, he got there by hard work and determination. If a woman rises to be the CEO of the company, even if the staff are all women, she is suspected to get there by sleeping with the board members. This is the world we live in.
. Some people will read this post and will neither like nor comment on it and won't even add me for more just because am not yet a CELEBRITY forgetting that they can make me one..
This is the world and the group we live in
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1. Choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.
3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.
4. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.
5. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy, and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.
6. In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.
7. Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it!
8. Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got!
9. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.
10. Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else’s. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!
11. Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.
12. Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
13. Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.
14. When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”
15. When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”
16. Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important that your schedule.
17. Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.
18. Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone Else. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!
19. Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.
20. Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!
21. Connect into a community of faith. A good church can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.
22. Pray together. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it.
23. When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!
24. Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
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No relationship thrives for free. There must be something you're contributing, a problem you're solving, a need you're supplying, a value you're giving out. Love is not what makes it work. Your ability to stay relevant and useful to your partner makes it work. I advice you to first equip yourself because nobody values someone who has nothing to offer, no matter the love.
A lot of girls complain that their guys walk away from them simply because they refused giving them sex...
Some have even turned into sex toy just to keep their man....
Let me be very blunt here....
Sex might not be the reasons these guys walk away..
Remove sex from a Relationship, most girls don't have anything else to offer to their man!
No extra oil at all!!!
And the EXTRA OIL here is CHARACTER
Most girls do not have this EXTRA OIL to sustain their relationship..
While many brag about self worth and some useless virginity they have threw to the dogs even before the develop breast...
Aside SEX what can you have to offer to a man...
Can you support him SPIRITUALLY, PHYSICALLY, and MENTALLY
All you do is demand for money for Bags, Shoes, Clothes and Outing. Making him spend unnecessarily.....
What are you even bringing to the table??
Have you ever sat him down and help him plan his future??
Has he ever seen you as someone he can confide in?
Finally Try to be a woman that a man Will always regret losing for the rest of his life.
Be a woman that your man can never afford to lose for another man.
Build your man to your taste and stop looking for already made husband when you are not already made wife....it is well,God will help you,received the Grace,Your marriage is rolling fast. May you marry someone who will make you fall in love with God every single day, God is your strength. Amen.
Hope I'm talking to someone here?
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#theidealladiesfamilyHow to Attract a Respectable Partner:
1. Extend a greeting to those older than you, as it shows respect and approachability.
2. Avoid arrogance and pride, focusing on humility rather than family wealth.
3. Maintain an approachable, sociable, and cheerful demeanor.
4. Emphasize neat and attractive dressing without being overly revealing.
5. Reject overly revealing attire, as it may attract the wrong kind of attention.
6. Cultivate good character and kindness.
7. Avoid being a constant complainer or nag.
8. Show kindness and generosity to all.
9. Strive to be virtuous, not notorious.
10. Embrace prayerfulness, as many appreciate a spiritually-minded partner.
Thank you for your time.
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#theidealladiesfamily DEAR YOUNG ADULT GIRL
As you're growing up and getting closer to the journey of marriage life...Pls try to understand that you can choose a husband for yourself but your kids can't choose their own father, while choosing a father for them pls choose a father, a friend, a tutor, a prophet, and a guidance for them...
And don't forget to be good mother you can raise a hero and not a zero.
Wedding ring is the smallest handcuff ever made, so think deep, choose your prison mate carefully and sentence yourself wisely, to avoid prison break.
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